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Bounty

Wed, 18 Apr 2007 12:11:14 -0500

No Job No Relationship

Tue, 10 Apr 2007 16:42:02 -0500

How true is it that if you don't have a job, you are not worth your relationship? Some gay guys think that the job translates into good or bad relationship and when there is no job without knowing the background of the lack of job in the first place, that relationship suffers from the get-go. How can this be fixed? Is it just a change in perspective? What needs to be done? What will you do if your partner loses his job and you need to support him until he finds a job? Or would you support him at all? Will the feeling of equality in the relationship suffer because one partner makes more (or any) money than the other?

Gay and Catholic

Fri, 06 Apr 2007 15:20:57 -0500

The Catholic Encyclopedia says - Good Friday, called Feria VI in Parasceve in the Roman Missal, he hagia kai megale paraskeue (the Holy and Great Friday) in the Greek Liturgy, Holy Friday in Romance Languages, Charfreitag (Sorrowful Friday) in German, is the English designation of Friday in Holy Week -- that is, the Friday on which the Church keeps the anniversary of the Crucifixion of Jesus Christ. Can one be Catholic and Gay? And be in an open relationship? And have lots of sex? And just be all around fabulous? We say yes. What say you?

Gay Couples Meet up in Toronto

Wed, 04 Apr 2007 23:42:26 -0500

Click here to check out
The Toronto Gay Couples Meetup Group!

Found this on Meetup. Those Gay Couples in Toronto, have a chat and enjoy your meetup!

Breaking Free

Tue, 03 Apr 2007 19:46:26 -0500

Breaking Free Remix Original Asian Version Spanish Version Yes we love the High School Musical so why not share these videos with all right? I know it might seemed cheesy to others but its a great feel-good movie.

Louder than words

Tue, 03 Apr 2007 19:27:27 -0500

This is such a powerful song from Jonathan Larson (Rent and Tick Tick Boom). Sometimes we're asked what's the secret to a lasting relationship? Communication is what we always seem to hear. Respect is another. Understanding of each other needs could very well be the third. This song reminds us that words are nothing unless backed by actions... Other versions of this song you can see here and here - from the play Tick Tick Boom

Time flies when you're not having sex

Fri, 23 Mar 2007 17:17:32 -0500

So its been three weeks and still no sex. Ok no sex with the hubby but a few here and there with strangers. Yes yes yes. I know about all the 'be careful' drama. It's like smoking, you do it or you don't do it. Don't tell me what to do.... So back to the story.... What do you do when an annoyingly stupid interviewer asks you stupid questions? I was trying to get a client and all I got was a lot of "where did you grow up?" "when did you move here?" "are you parents still alive?" blah blah blah. The real point of the question? How old are you because you don't look like you should be doing this with your youngish face. Oh whatever already sister. So what do you do when you get those stupid questions? How do you deflect them? How do you tell them to shove it... politely?

Snow day today!

Fri, 09 Mar 2007 09:46:10 -0500

This is what we feel like on a snow day up North!

It was hot

Fri, 02 Mar 2007 17:11:08 -0500

When one says "it was hot" and you're in a sauna - does it mean, the place is hot so he had to leave or you were hot but he has to leave? This was a statement to me the other day when I was at a sauna and it was getting quite hot in there. I was sweating and having a hard on when a hot bear comes in and starts fondling himself. Having no ability to contain myself, my visible hard on was expecting a reaction from him. He touched but then quipped "it was hot" and then left. What's up with that?

And then there were three....

Wed, 28 Feb 2007 11:30:08 -0500

Three testicles... three manpurses... three nipples... three computers.... interesting this triad concept because it can connote something forbidden like a love triangle or a triage. The point is that its all about perspective. I for one like threes... makes it more interesting... So when I was asked about where I will be on 03/03 I said we'll take three sex club stops prior to arriving at 3 pm on 3rd street in NYC. It'll be a fun trip ....

What's with the comparison?

Mon, 19 Feb 2007 11:36:51 -0500

There always seems to be a comparison going on whenever we talk to people we'd like to be friends with. They compare jobs, (some have the balls to even ask about salaries!), background, experience, academic excellence, skills, competencies, blah blah blah... seems like we're being interviewed (in a nice way but an interview nonetheless). What's up with that? The other day we met a new couple - a straight one actually - and the wife had rapid questions from give me your business card (to see where we're at in life to saying "your card says Partner, does that mean there's more than one Partner in your company?") Oh whatever. She ain't going to be a friend. The only reason we even bothered to chat was because her husband was a high school classmate of mine - not even a friend, just happened to be in the same batch - and we've reconnected through another classmate (this one a closer friend). So we ask again, What's up with that? Can we just talk about the weather or the value of friendship rather than the acquisitions we have? The obsession to money, property, power annoys us as we get older. Does it happen to you as well?

You're a PIG!

Sun, 18 Feb 2007 15:42:01 -0500

Definitely translatable into I want you now, you pig!, You're a bastard, You are my sex slave, I want you now!, Eat my [fill in body part] you pig [fill expletive]. To everyone else, Gung Hay Fat Choi!

Plausible Deniability

Thu, 15 Feb 2007 19:01:39 -0500

When there is plausible deniability people would be more open to you. Why is that? When in the form of a joke, people would say anything. When its an array of serious issues but spoken with a whisper then people don't have issues babbling their head off. I've spoken with wives of classmates from high school today who were very quick to tell me their life stories in the guise of plausible deniability. Interesting how one's ability to share when shrouded can be revealing at the same time. And when you're gay, you are 'in' and able to chat freely without fear of reprisal from the macho images. Amazing eh? The many blessings of being gay! Happy Chinese New Year!

Yours, Mine, and Ours...

Wed, 14 Feb 2007 01:52:08 -0500

There will always be something that is only yours, his, and you both owned. During our decades of being together we've seen dramas and exhaustive platitudes about the beauty of cohabitive financial bliss - yeah right. We've tried separate accounts and combined accounts but realized that we have our own earnings so why not have our own accounts and have a combined one that pays for everything that we both need to pay for together like rent, insurance, retirement funds, etc. We then have our own allowance that we call play money which we then use for whatever we please - buying each other gifts, buying ourselves shoes, savings for our own personal needs (in my case an iPhone). Does this financial strategy works for everyone? NO! You have to do what is comfortable. If you are in the relationship for money, then be honest to yourself about it. If you are in the relationship for love and you have no problem losing your shirt in the process (if you happen to not realize you were blindsided by the other person and took all your money) then conjoin your finances at the hip. If you end up with someone who was honest and true and money is secondary to having a life together, then you can play with various modes - separate, combined, or whatever other configuration you can think of. The point we're making is this - when it comes to money, don't be an ostrich and get your head off the sand and see where you're headed. Together you can make the financial decisions and strategies work much more effectively than not talking about it. BUT talking about it too much is also going to end up looking like that's the only thing you focus on in the relationship. BALANCE and TIMING are important when money discussions are involved. It's Valentine's Day, make sure when you splurge, you do so for the right reasons.

Vote for the New Seven Wonders of the World

Mon, 12 Feb 2007 16:22:10 -0500

Have you voted yet? Its free. Be a part of history. The New Seven Wonders of the World. Coming from New York we of course voted for the Statue of Liberty because not only does it represent Liberty from oppression but also liberty to be a diverse culture. It happens to be in the United States but that shouldn't deter someone from voting for it because of its location but vote for it because of what it represents. We all want to have equality and this is one way to tell future generations that we voice our belief that all humans are meant to be equal. As Canadian Ambassadors for the New Wonders of the World, please use our Ambassador number 777202 when you vote. (and you don't have to be Canadian to use this code) Experience the wonders of the world by visiting them yourself. Check out rates today. We've created this quick portal for you.