When there is plausible deniability people would be more open to you. Why is that? When in the form of a joke, people would say anything. When its an array of serious issues but spoken with a whisper then people don't have issues babbling their head off.
I've spoken with wives of classmates from high school today who were very quick to tell me their life stories in the guise of plausible deniability. Interesting how one's ability to share when shrouded can be revealing at the same time.
And when you're gay, you are 'in' and able to chat freely without fear of reprisal from the macho images. Amazing eh?
The many blessings of being gay! Happy Chinese New Year!
